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I posted this as a reply somewhere else. Thought I'd make a post for the 200 couples lurking here today who want find a "unicorn".
- Become swingers
- Have fun
- Be fun
- Be kind
- Fuck couples
- Relax
- Let go of your script
- Treat everyone as human
Guaranteed to work.
We played with a single lady this weekend. Here is how it works in real life.
We were at a place were we are regulars. We have no set agenda on how we will play or with who. We enjoy couples, single women and guys.. We have boundaries and things we don't like. But recognize that others are human and have their own desires and interests and seek to find the overlap if there is one. Not to find a fantasy fulfilling magic unicorn. They don't exist. But the space were everyone gets something fun!
A single lady liked the looks of us and struck up a conversation. We talked a flirted. We enjoyed each other's company and the conversation and connection for what it was. We just hung out for about an hour.. Sexy people connecting with no expectations having good conversation. We shared info about different clubs and parties.. And then we played a little. She was there with another couple and had plans to play with them later. I also played with that gentleman a little.
Later we went to dinner and she invited a guy she is seeing and we got to know him and may all play together next weekend.
Even "single" ladies have attachments and don't stay single long. There isn't someone out there who will just slot into your fantasy. Just real humans. Like you.
If this go with flow attitude doesn't sound good to you...you ned a sex worker. Because that's what the reality of swinging and playing with single women often looks like. Just nice connections. Not an scripted fantasy.
There are no unicorns. Just people.
Alternative (but complimentary advice) for the folks who for one reason or another aren't interested in couples:
Don't call them unicorns (and don't objectify them in general). It's weird and single ladies usually aren't that deep in the LS and aren't gonna appreciate you treating them as a sex toy
Be young (under 35 ideally) and attractive: Most single women interested in threesomes are younger and are going to want to hook up with folks around their age.
Be in a big metro: You're going to have much better luck in NYC, LA etc. than a random town in Ohio. Just the law of averages.
Don't be insecure: Think the reason a lot of couples have trouble finding single women is because the dude is obviously insecure about another man having sex with his partner. This reeks of insecurity and hypocrisy.
In our case I would me more than down for a MFM threesome but my partner isn't comfortable with other men. I think this shows with the women we talk to and they feel comfortable knowing I'm secure in myself/our relationship.
- Be open to hotwife/cuck couples: Some men love the idea of watching their partner with a couple and this is something worth exploring if you're into it
Yeah it's kind of sexist when you really peel the onion back.
We always offer women the opportunity to just play with her while I'm in the room which is something more couples should consider with a new partner.
I can only speak anecdotally on this; but we have 2 separate couples that have both offered to "allow" their partners both male and female to play with my wife and me alone to fulfill any fmf/ffm or mfm fantasies we want to explore. We haven't taken either up on the offer yet because we aren't ready to play alone yet and would feel bad about accepting the offer and not returning the favor. but clearly it does create opportunities
My partner is just like you. It's been difficult to find the right people but we've made it work.
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We've dealt with flakiness too in NYC which sucks but in the burbs you just don't have the #'s needed
EDIT: love your username 😂