I’m bi sexual and one of the reasons we swing is for me to be with both girls and guys. The last two couples we’ve been with “listed” the female being bi- but when we play, it’s usually me doing all the effort.. Ie me going down on her, playing with breasts etc. They are more than comfortable receiving but much more interested in playing with my husband.
Are we not vetting properly, or is this somewhat common like a bait and switch….
Background ; We always meet for drinks on a separate day and explain we really enjoy group play- girl on girl and swapping and they all seem to be in agreement.
We have heard of this being a common problem but really haven’t run into it yet. I’m really surprised this is happening after you meet in person and discuss it. That makes it seem like you are vetting really well but it’s more of a them problem which is interesting.
We have generally tried to do that and in the initial group chat/discussion my wife really makes it clear she’s into this for the girl-girl play as much as the swap and if the other woman is not clear that she’s game for it too we usually rule them out.
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