We started almost 1 year ago in non-monogamy and it's almost been a year since we started swinging.

I've been working on my swagger, confidence, seduction, and overall attractiveness since the beginning. It's been quite the journey.

Last night we hung-out with a new couple and hung out at a few bars, my wife told me today that she could see that the other wife was INTO me. I used everything I've learned and internalized. We had a make-out session with some heavy petting, and the other wife made me feel so sexy, desirable, and attractive. She was all over me. I can't quite describe what it was but I felt wanted. I wanted her too and I was really turned-on by her energy.

In the 10 experiences we've had with other couples, I've never felt that way before. Everytime I have felt like my wife is the main attraction for the other woman and man and I'm just along for the ride. I've felt like a lot of times the other couple almost wished I wasn't there.

I don't know how to deal with it (being desired)...honestly. I don't know what to say to the other couple to keep up the attraction and interest.

Unfortunately, the other couple pushed a few of our boundaries last night so my wife had a downer discussion after we arrived home, and the feeling wasn't great in the car either...so that's shaded things negatively. We told the other couple we can't wait to see them again though but that there's a few small things we have to talk about.

Edit: a few people asked about the boundary thing. The reason I said "push" instead of "break" is because we went along with it. We told them we play in the same room and we thought we were making out in the same car but it became two for the sake of "more room" (his idea). In the end we have to take personal responsibility for being "ok" with doing something that we told them we don't do. They're way more experienced then us, and move much faster, but we also have to be better about speaking up.