My SO and i have been swinging for about 3 years now and we both enjoy it immensely. That said she always leaves all of the work side of it( getting on the accounts,l finding people to meet, chatting with them,...) to me and really never gets involved in it at all. Even when it means another couple will bail. It is pretty frustrating and I have talked to her about it more than once. She always ends up saying she will get more involved but never does. Anyone else ever had this and were you able to get them more involved some how?
Part of the problem is the lifestyle's reliance on social media apps and the like. My wife isn't one to sit at the computer and do searches for new couples. As for her phone, sometimes the kids are touching it or it's out at work, so not very private. Also, she is not looking to engage with random strangers during the limited personal time she has for family and home affairs. So basically she hands everything off to me.
This is the exact case for us. She's at work 10 hours a day and when she's home she's chatting with family and catching up with her vanilla responsibilities. The idea of her going ok KIK or browsing lifestyle sites is so foreign to her. However if I say we're going to a LS hotel party on Saturday she's fine with it, or even if I chat up a couple on line she'll ask to see a few pics and review the convo, and say OK sounds good, let's meet if she likes their vibe.
What happens if there's a couple that wants to 'voice verify' before they meet you? Has that ever happened?
We're in the same boat as well, honestly unsustainable with how much of a time suck it can be
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Yes, same here. Since I'm online 12 hours a day or more I have the time. Plus after 20 yrs together I pretty much know what she wants.