Hello lovely people, how are you doing today :)?

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We recently had two dates, both with complete first timers. Everyone has to start somewhere sometime, right? So we thought no problem, let's meet with them. Both time we exchanged face and body pics and set up a meeting. First time only for drinks, no chance of play. Again, we were happy to apply. Unfortunately both times after our first date, we got a message with almost identical content. The reason why I want to get your experience is because both time I found the wording a bit weird.

Something like: "Thanks for the nice evening but it doesn't work for her. For our first time, it should be perfect for both of us." Ouch! First of all, making it clear that I(M) am the problem. Second of all, I found it weird that both time they wrote

"For our first time it needs to be..." . I don't know about you, but our expectations for our playmates have not decreased after our first time, did yours? Also, the pics we send are always brutally honest. No filter, make-up or whatever else (This honestly couldn't be said about our dates. I am not shallow and usually don't care about that stuff but the girls were quite a bit heavier than they appeared on their profiles).

Anyway, needless to say my ego took a huge hit. What is your take on this r/Swingers? Is this a thing with first timers or just bad luck? Maybe we shouldn't date first timers for a while, haha!