Met a nice couple while we were out, hung out for a couple hours, talked, played games, drank. They were obviously VERY interested even if just on a friend level we got along great. Had a lot in common. However, at some point in the night âcrowded clubâ we lost each other and didnât end up reconnecting before my husband had one to many drinks and it was time to go. During our conversations she told me that they were getting married, where, when etc. So all it took was a quick google search to find their wedding website âeveryone has one nowâ and incidentally find their socials. Would it be incredibly invasive to send a message.. I really donât think it is since itâs not like I had to deep dive to find their wedding page but still.. maybe it is? Theyâre mid/late 20âs so of the age where itâs more acceptable but as a millennial I still get anxiety with overstepping my internet etiquette.
ETA- We were at a swingers club.
Clarifications.. as they seem to be necessary. First off the wedding website is linked to all socials so no I would not be posting on their wedding page.. âcould you imagine!â Second these were not private people.. I know where they work, live, essentially their entire life story at this point. If they were an older crowd I wouldnât even ask this question because Iâm well aware of the generations that prioritize internet privacy. This couple did everything other than lay out naked with an arrow pointing at their genitals so the connection is there. Lastly, it was my fault we got separated and it was a little abrupt so if I had to make an assumption I would say they probably felt we ditched them. Either way Iâm still rather iffy and appreciate the feedback.
Too late now, but you should have made a point of giving them your phone number before bailing. Then the ball would have been in their court. Now it's much more complicated.
My two centsâŚ. I would NOT be warm to getting a swinger chat on my vanilla social media. I would feel violated and that the swinger couple who did this intrusive internet search of me is not to be trusted any further. Peoples privacy, especially in the swinger community, is paramount. Why violate that by sending them a message just to prove you violated their privacy?
I would not mention the club. Just that maybe you met recently. Keep it vague.
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in case anyone sees the message. Just mention the day you met. Surely they'll remember what they were doing on that day :)