We’ve been in the LS since we met, but that’s another story. Over our years together, we’ve each taken one for the team without planning g to do so. We don’t purposely agree one of us is but sometimes it just happens. Usually at a play party or occasionally with a couple meet and one or the other in the couple isn’t what they seemed. It’s usually both of us want the other and the other just tags along. We met a couple several years ago and the male half was dull, boring, not really interesting and my wife wanted to play with her so she sucked him off (his wife said he would go to sleep, he did) and we played with her until the wee hours of the morning. Not really taking one for the team. We won’t meet a couple from a site or play at a party with both unless we want to both play. Have you ever taken one for the team? Have you ever felt like you were the sympathy fuck? Thoughts? Comments? Smart remarks?
We've not had a take one for the team situation, but we do feel constantly like it's the male pushing for play simply because he thinks my wife is hot, it makes it seem like the female is just being drug along to appease her man. Pretty big mood killer for us. We won't play unless we find both parties attractive and it's reciprocal.
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It's off putting and confusing. (M)y wife is largely more interested in the female partner but enjoys the added attention and extra play options of full swap couples. Even then we feel hard pressed to find couples that the female partner express a desire for her let alone me. Plenty of attention from the male partner on what they would like to do or have done, and I can do whatever (within the rules pre defined) I want to his woman. It gives off the perception of her being this grand prize he gets to add to his shelf while letting me hold his old college trophy.
In terms of swinging we are a classic case of unicorn hunters, as in if we are just going to fuck we would rather just share a pussy together and not have to hassle with extra dick. However long term seems to be becoming a unicorn in of itself. That being finding a couple that A) even allows the female to express her interests and desires, but B) is open enough to allow that to go beyond a one night stand. [And a fading C) be local lol]