This feels ridiculous to write, but the GF (F 30s) and I (M 30s) are on the precipice of our first swing (full swap, with beautiful people we know but not close friends). I'm feeling a little self-conscious about my body. I'm in great shape, I work out nearly every day, but I'm not at like... my peak. I can't see my abs very well at the moment, and I have this sort of unhealthy, movie-like fantasy that I have to be perfect and cut when this hot new couple sees me naked for the first time.

I'm like a couple days of severe calorie restriction away from getting there... but the urge to do that feels weird and unhealthy. Can any female members of this sub reassure me that no one is going to be disappointed if I have 14% body fat instead of 12%? Thank you 😐