So this is probably weighing heavily on me because of a strict religious upbringing and some of the emotional baggage from that.

I am really attracted sexually to a female swinger and I find myself fantasizing about doing things with her. I met her and her husband and several other couples at a meet-n-greet.

I wonder if this is really healthy, even if I am not letting it invade my time with my wife and kids. I've definitely gone back to thinking about her and another new friend several times to the point where I would rather fantasize about doing things with these new women than watch porn.

I am wary of things like porn and fantasy because I "think" that the boatload of dopamine that comes with it also means a lack of "edge" that makes me sexy. But maybe that's a non-sequitur.

Yes. My wife knows that I stroked it and fantasized about potential play partners.