I’m in an open relationship 9 years or so and sometimes swing. Trying to figure out risk tolerance and testing schedule.

When do you get tested or use barriers with your spouse? Example- if one of us has vulva to penis contact with vaginal fluids- that’s relatively as risky as P in V. Trying to figure out what and when to disclose to my other partners.

Example: I don’t use a barrier with husband. We use barriers with other partners. But we may both sometimes engage in that. Oral sex with no barrier is another similar risk item.

We do have our gardasil vaccines. Woot!! We got them in our 40s.

Checking in with what other people do. I know we will all feel differently and have different tolerances.