We recently involved a man in our sexlife and had our first thrersome with a man. We've been chatting for months with him and even talked on the phone. I was honestly not considering involving a man with us just yet, with the fear of the stereotypical man. This man however was very professional, and it was also new to him as it were to us. We vibed good together and seem to be in a similar place mentally and sexually(boundaries etc). So after chatting a while we grew comfortable with him and so we planned to meet.

We met at dinner and had plans to go to a hotel afterwards. Neither of us had any expectations for the evening and we all wanted to feel out and see what became natural for us to do or not do.

All is well and back as the hotel room we got undressed after a lot of talk etc. The single man was very nervous, but it helped that I (M) was very at ease and not nervous at all for some reason. My SO(F) was a bit nervous too, but mostly shy. We started slow and went down on her on each turn. After that we were supposed to have her give us BJs following spitroasting or so if we felt like it. Here comes the problem.

I for the life of me could not get hard at all. Well isn't that super stereotypical in an situation like this? I've read countless similar stories here and know it's very common, but for some reason I thought I would not have this problem. It was really frustrating, because I have no reason to figure out why it was like that.

I was really on and into it, no jealousy or anything. I don't think bad about the experience at all, but It's bugging me that my body weren't cooperating.

So we kind of chilled once we sorted that we weren't able to resurrect my member lol. The guy was very respectful and chill so we just went to bed all of us.

I woke up with and was rock hard (as I usually am after sleeping) and was really hot about getting started and the three of us could finally try things out all together. So I started off fucking my SO but once we put the light on to invite the guy, my member once again went limp.

I sort of concluded my body just reacted this way without me being in control, given the unfamiliar situation. I have no other clues as to why it would be.

Unfulfilling fantasies aside, we did have a great time together and will be seeing the guy again definitely.

I know an obvious solution would be taking viagra when in need. The only reason I didn't, was I found the side effects (1 in 1000 death) to scare me not to. I'm sure viagra isn't actually that dangerous with good health? Thought and suggestions are welcome.