Basically like the title says, my (36M) wife (37F) have been talking a lot about trying to dip our toes into the lifestyle, but we just had a kid. My wife had been pretty horny through most of the pregnancy and this is when talk about trying things out had come up more and more (which I had no problem with). So we started making plans of how to potentially approach this with a phased approach. A lot of it was dependent on how she recovered post-delivery and how it was going to go with breast feeding which is where we’d heard a lot about that really draining her libido. Two weeks into having a new baby, it feels like we’ve both actually been getting our libidos back in force which wasn’t expected.

I found this article to be interesting for anyone curious too: https://www.livescience.com/21306-truth-postpartum-sex.html

We even have a potential couple we’ll maybe play with when we take a trip in the spring, but it’s still just chatting right now. I’m still incredibly excited about the possibility of playing with friends and also checking out some clubs to get a feel for things and see how we do. The goal is to observe, get a feel for the vibe, maybe play with each other first before we take things further with anyone else. And all of this is after she’s healed up, feeling good about her body, and we’ve lost a little bit of the pregnancy snacking weight (me more than my wife 😅)

What I’m curious about is to hear from those of you who got into this after having a kid, and for those who were doing it before and after kids, what changed for you and how you balanced all of it.