So here's the thing. I'm shy. I have some social anxieties and don't really feel comfortable in a lot of social situations. I have to make myself be outgoing most times.

But... after being in the lifestyle and full swapping, etc with couples met through dating apps and playing at one club this weekend I've realized that as soon as my clothes come off, so do my inhibitions. I feel right at home in a sexual situation and am no longer afraid of what people think, etc. like I do in "normal" situations. This weekend I played in an orgy room with my husband and loved the feeling of being watched and loved how many guys were calling me over from the other side of the room while they enjoyed watching me.

This poses a problem for me, however, because at a club, how do I get into the position where I'm most comfortable (the bedroom) when actually chatting up other people and making those connections is the hard part? Both times we've been at lifestyle clubs they've seemed cliquey with people who already all know each other and then I regress to that shy nerdy girl I was in high school. I know the answer is likely, "Get over it..." but that's easier said than done. What's the best course of action for someone who isn't outgoing enough to strike up a conversation with strangers even when that's the purpose of the event?