What’s the best way to ask couples in a party environment about what they will and won’t do in a medium to large party? We went to our first one with about 20 plus couples on Saturday. The couple we connected best with doesn’t swap and we wound up spending too much time and effort with them, kissing, touching, anticipating but not expecting. Turned into some toy time with the ladies taking care of business with each other in the swing then just let to parallel play. The next morning we read their profile and found out they don’t swap. It’s not like we can memorize every profile before going to every event. We don’t regret the night but in a couple of weekends we’re going to another house party and don’t want to repeat the same mistake.