Understood. That is exactly how I feel anyway. This is why I am looking other places.

If she did participate, I believe she would be doing me a favor. It would seem like it would be out of obligation to me, imo. She has participated in them before. So, she's no stranger to being a third. I just don't feel like it would be right to ask her. She is trying to get her own relationship on track anyway. If she would be willing, she is the only person I would trust to let the hubby go bareback with and everything.

I don't know what SRS is. I did not know or think of a sub reddit for my state. I will try that. We have not talked about another couple. I am not interested in another man. I don't think my hubby is comfortable with that either. I am not saying that it is totally out of the question. I am saying that it is not for right now, because we are brand new and have yet to have any experience like this and this is just where my comfort level is at the moment. The hubby is straight and I am bicurious. How do you verify? What is that all about?

I understand. Thank you. I guess I need more patience.

I would not be ok with losing this friend. I am ok with a second experience.

I want to go to a club but he doesn't. That's one of the problems. Also, I see a lot of people not having success or having to build up relationships with other couples on swinger sites. We are not looking for couples and I don't want to pay to be on multiple sites just to be added to the list of disappointments on here. I don't mind going out and meeting others at nonswinger places like the grocery store or a naughty store. My hubby isn't really into dance clubs either because the music hurts his ears, but I love it. I found only one unicorn and she is in NYC. We are in OH☹. This is what I usually find as far as unicorns are concerned. So I need other ways that work.

I don't mind multiple experiences with the same person, but I don't want this to be a romantic relationship. I want it to be more of people meeting and fulfilling each others sexual needs with mutual respect. If we happen to become friends in the process, I am not opposed. I just want to stay discreet about this.

Oh! Ok. Then I guess that's me, because I don't want a male or a couple. I just want a female (attached or not).

Gotcha. I will take this advice. Thank you.

To my understanding, unicorn hunters are people looking for a third without regard to the unicorn's feelings, concerns, or needs. They basically use them as a toy. Am I understanding this correctly? OR, is it people looking for a third without wanting a relationship, but take all of those things into consideration still? I need clarification.

I don't mind putting in the work. I just don't want to pay $50 for multiple sites and still not be successful. I also like the idea of an organic situation. I have been looking and researching since the first week of September, 3 months. I am frustrated and that is why I am asking for help.

Actually, I have been asking her her for her advice and about her experiences. She just had a threesome this past weekend with her man and a female friend and she said she enjoyed it. While she has played with others, I am not sure how she feels about us. Also, she has never met my husband. We live 2 hours away from each other and never seem to be able to meet up.

Thank you. That is helpful!

I don't know how to find them. Do you have any places I could look? We are in NE OH.

Thank you. That's good advice.

I would really like for him to go to a club, because from what I have been reading I found there is no pressure to play with others if you don't want to. So i want him to feel comfortable and confident to say no. I also want our chances to be greater at a club and I don't mind being watched.

Aren't sex workers illegal? This list is so expensive. I did not think this far ahead. It looks like I have more planning to do. I wish this was easier like meeting someone and have a one night stand at a hotel.

I stay away from dating apps since we have adult children and I know that one of them is on some. Tinder is one that I know she's on. Where do you find meet & greets? Isn't it illegal to pay a professional?

Ok, but why? We have never done this before.