Met a couple for drinks: both highly educated etc. We decide to do a play date following week. Communication prior was great- rules boundaries beginning of night was great including a soft swap only for first night of play He got aggressive during play- took two to three times to stop on certain activities with my wife; forced her head down on oral while ejaculating. I did multiple check in with his wife , asking “are you ok with this- harder softer, what makes you feel good” No check ins for my wife. We called it off early; didn’t confront and ended it politely. Next day/ they text saying he has a great time. we tell them it won’t work out for the following reasons. He was very apologetic blamed anxiety, drinking as was apologetic saying he didn’t realize he did those things. ( I was not drinking and saw it, and tried to manage ) I’m feeling guilty as I should have called it off sooner when he pushed my wife down orgasming. My wife is not pleased; says she’s not distressed about it (not sure) but I am. Obviously we won’t seem them again; his wife ( a doctor) was silent on subject as I assumed was all great for her.. Im now feeling Uber guilty for not stopping when I found out. ( I saw it happening but I didn’t realize he was forcing her head; it look like he was just holding her head ..) guiding ..