I see a lot of people on here express how much they enjoy watching their partner give/ receive pleasure from swing partners or how much it turns them on to watch their SO get fucked… am I the only one that does not get turned on seeing my partner with another? I feel happy that he is happy and enjoying himself I just don’t get aroused watching him.

We got into swinging because while we love each other deeply and plan to spend the rest of our lives together, we really liked the idea of opening our relationship up to explore sexually with other couples. We typically full swap with other couples and play in the same room. I look over to check everything is alright from time to time, but I’m mostly focused on my swinging partner. It does not turn me on to watch him in action, I find it distracts me from being able to enjoy my own pleasure. I asked him about this and he agrees he doesn’t like watching me either! We seem to be doing very well not getting jealous after these dates, but perhaps we are still working through the feelings of getting used to sharing each other. But honestly I am a little envious of those that get turned on watching their partner play, and I’m curious if that is something I can work on or could come with time. We’ve been in the lifestyle about 6 months.