This review is being written by the male half

TLDR: Had an amazing time at our first big party, would definitely go again, fulfilled everything we hoped a big party would be… hot sex, upscale, classy atmosphere. The $300 per couple price tag probably helped skew the attendees towards more classy, although it's nice that single women get in free.

So, this has been a wild and explorative summer in the world of sex and non-monogamy for us. We hosted our first swingers party about a month ago (with ten people) which was also our first time having group sex with more than four people at a time.

We've been curious about the swinger party/sex club scene, although in general we feel like it's "not really our thing" because we prefer personal connections and we're generally not into quick fucks (at least that's what we tell ourselves).

Thanks to encouragement from our dear friend we decided to give Bocanegra a try.

We took a very sexy lady friend of ours as a date. I felt very grateful walking into this party with two professional, sexy, intelligent, classy women on my arms.

Overall: The house was a large, beautiful, luxurious, clean, well-appointed property with a swimming pool and jacuzzi. (Here's the house FYI.) There were four or five bedrooms upstairs, each was pretty dark with a colored LED lighting scheme (blue/red etc).

My thoughts upon seeing all the guests: Damn these are a lot of sexy, classy looking people. I don't know how many people total there were, I would guess easily 60-70 but not sure.

It was BYOB and you were supposed to check in your alcohol at the makeshift bar in the kitchen, where you could come back throughout the evening for refills. They provided cups and mixers/water bottles/Red Bulls.

We were very nervous at the beginning but after a couple glasses of liquid courage, our nerves were calmed and we were ready to play.

I won't go into detail for obvious reasons, but I will say that I went into this party with no specific expectations but did hope to participate in my first official orgy, and that definitely happened. It was a fucking hot sexy night.

There was definitely no pressure or obligation for anyone to engage sexually. Lots of folks were there as voyeurs which was also a unique experience… we're used to hundreds of strangers watching us on Reddit but it was special to have that happen in person. For people that did engage in sex, it seemed like there was good exercise of the rules of consent and communication. Lady and our date felt very comfortable the whole time.

We met a number of really nice people and had a lot of good conversations. For some other people it was their first time at a sex party and they didn't feel ready to engage, so they just chatted, met people, and watched if they wanted to.

At one point there was a big flogging/impact play "demonstration" in the backyard with lots of the guests watching. My two dates got flogged very thoroughly, thanks in part to our friend who helped with the flogging 😘 (pic of the aftermath available on our Reddit profile).

I think everyone knows how sexy Lady is, but it was very validating and confidence boosting for me personally as a man to receive compliments from women at the party. Receiving compliments online is one thing, hearing it from a sexy stranger right in front of you who wants to engage immediately is quite another experience.

So yeah, our group had an amazing time.