Long story short- we recently connected with some friend of friends and really didn’t have that firm of communication. Things started to get hot and heavy pretty quick- we said our( rules very quickly while in midst of making out ) husband said to his wife- whatever you want is fine with me. We start having fun in bed all together- husband starts to video and than once he sees wife having sex- freaks out. Lots of yelling - accusations drama We are quite experienced- they weren’t as much. He called us predatory and we had no intention of including him..on an on. - we get crazy texts saying he has ptsd from event - marriage is on rocks because of our actions etc.

Learn from our mistakes - and what we learned after the fact from some couples here. - lots of sober communication before hand - go as slow as slowest person - and constant communication. We hadn’t always followed these and it finally bit us big time