First off, hi. My husband and I are soft swap only (all but penis penitration) for now. We haven't played since covid, for obvious reasons. Anyway, he came out as pansexual to me a little over a year ago. My response?: And? You still love me, right? Because I for sure love him, more than anything. 15 years and counting. Didn't even surprise me. He's the family I chose. And I love him even more than I did before he came out. And not in spite of him being pan. Because he's more himself and he's happy. When you really love someone, all you want is for him/her/they to be happy. We got together very young and it makes complete sense that we missed out on having more sexual partners. If anything, swinging has strengthened our relationship. Don't try to fill a void. The LS should be a supplement, an addition to what you have. Make sure you are making the person you love more happy while not sacrificing your own happiness.