We recently tried to set up a mfm threesome, the guy was not like the usual douchebags who reply, he was kind, respectful, and made my wife feel sexy by replying how hot her pics were etc...
The day finally came and we had a set time and when it came to, nothing, we texted and after a little delay he apologized and said he couldn't do it, as he was getting cold feet and apologized for not following through and flaking and for wasting our time. I told him not to worry, to relax and to feel better, not to let it mess with his head.
My wife and I were pretty disappointed, her more than me because it affects her self esteem, however we both know how to comfort each other and it's all well.
So out of curiosity to the community I have a couple of questions.
- For the couples out there, how many on here have had flakes for threesomes before whether mfm or ffm and how did you guys deal with it? Or did you guys flake on them?
- For the single dudes or dudettes, has a couple ever flaked on you or called it off? Or have you called it off for cold feet/anxiety or pressure?
- Any advice on finding someone similar to the guy mentioned above (respectful, playful, but will not flake)?
- Not a question, more of a statement really, we just got the Lush 2 for any couples looking into remote/discreet play in public, it's a MUST BUY!!!
We have been in the LS for about a year, and we have played with both singles and couples. We have found singles much more fun. Far less drama, and far less worries about other agendas. That being said for us, finding a lady to join is tough. We can get nibbles, but it is tough to land a connection. We have many more issues with ladies flaking than not.
As far as the for the fellers we have been lucky to have meet several that know what they are doing. Our advice would be to not over talk. Connect via chat, exchange pics, discuss rules, if all agree then set a date ASAP. While chatting you can get a feeling and see if he 'gets it". For us the men that have never done this before are far more likely to flake, or not be able to perform.
Also remember.....because someone asks to reschedule it doesn't mean they are flaking it could just mean that life happens. For most the LS is a hobby not a priority.....so try and give the singles the benefit of the doubt as long as they communicate well.
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