Fair warning, obvious covid talk so this may trigger some - marked it below so you can skip it if you may get offended.

I'm okay with our plan but curious as to what the mindhive of r/swingers would do?

Covid talk: So after my wife and I volunteered at the hospital back in April we went from covid is not a big deal (even maybe fake) to full on HOLY FUCKING SHIT this is horrible. My wife has a degree in nursing (not a nurse currently) and we have nurse and doc friends so we know and pay attention to what's going on. Bottom line is that seeing people hooked up, talking with their families, and talking with docs and nurses and whatnot scarred us straight to monogamy for a bit.

Months passed and a few close friends and us started talking about how we are all quarantining and we began to talk about just us playing in our little circle. Soon there were three couples and two singles (one M, one F) who entered into verbal agreement to keep each other safe. Very explicitly stated, agreed upon, and understood was that no one goes on dates or fucks others. If you do, no hard feelings but you're out of the group for a bit. Remain friends but at a distance for a while.

A few weeks ago I was talking with another LS friend who was still active and giving me the lowdown on the scene (club was just reopening and online was starting to pickup according to him). He knew of our pact that we made and after some more talking he told us that one of the couples in our pact was actively shopping online - they had contacted them. At first it was more odd than anything else but whatever, I get that they are hopeful for when it's all over.

Our little group doesn't get to meet as a group a whole lot largely due to schedules and getting open homes to play in (kids and whatnot). So, we finally get a plan for most of us to meet (mfmfmff)- it had been almost a month since any of us had played so we're all over excited - and our solo F friend was coming!!! We get a vacation home that we know the owner of and they've told us that it's been empty for almost a month and had a deep clean after the previous guests. We're stoked. We're set to leave first thing Friday morning but Thursday night our friends sent out a message saying that they can't make it. Still, mfmff sounds like a lot of fun! And it was!!!!

Now this morning I get a text from our friend saying that this couple who bailed on us were out at the club with another couple. He brought it to my attention only because we discussed our pact that we had with them. I was pissed, then calm, and now back to just thinking they are dead to us. I have since talked to another friend who I know was at the club as well and they confirmed it.

I feel like a fucking drama queen here but this is our safety so I think that gives me some rights to be a little pissed doesn't it?

Normally, Idgaf who does what with who or anything like that. We've been around long enough and done enough to ngaf about most things and we know swinging is swinging and exclusive shit doesn't fly. But wasn't this a special case was it not?

My current plan is to tell them that we are happy that they are able to continue dating others and going to the club but that's not a risk we are able or willing to take. I don't want to get into any drama and I would like for them to take the ability to bow out on their own and not rat them out to the others. Tho part of me wants to publicly shame them to set an example. LOL. Nah, I just want to forget them at this point.

I'm okay with our plan but curious as to what the mind hive of r/swingers would do?