My wife and I seem to be in the minority even in the swinging community. She is straight, and I am what I would call bi-comfortable (I won't initiate man on man action, but if it happens, I'll go along with it if I find the guy attractive).

In BIG BOLD LETTERS on our profile, it says that my wife doesn't play with women, and we are both listed as straight. Whenever a convorsation starts, I make sure that within two or three messages, I share my wife's preferences and state that I'm pretty open sexually and ask if that's a deal breaker.

Every time I ask, they say no.

About 1/3 of the time, it is later down the line.

Conversations turn to "let the girls play first then the guys join." I shut that down and get yelled at for leading them on.

We meet up and the other woman starts trying to touch my wife, this makes her uncomfortable and we shut it down and get yelled at for being a liar on our profile (which they probably didn't read).

Or more rarely, the other woman shares a man on man fantasy while getting to know eachother, I say I'm open to most of that, and the other guy freaks out and wants nothing to do with us. (99% of the time he isn't my type anyway, I was just making small talk).

We've made it painfully obvious who we are, and yet these interactions are still far too common. Sorry if this shouldn't posted here, I just needed somewhere to get these frustrations off my chest.