Kinda a big deal since we're in the military, he's an officer (O5), and he's my direct superior.

Found out by putting an ad on doublelist for a MFM. Dude responds with his age, where abouts he lives, and a few pics that blurred his face and tats and stuff like that. We chat for a bit about the details of what we're looking for and shit like that. His wife wants to know if we do foursomes but never said she is looking. She did say that she would like to trade husbands for a "MMF" if possible. Wifey approves so far so we send him body shots from a recent vacation and one g rated holding a sign in front of our faces. No face pics yet to him. He tells us that he replied to our add mostly because we stressed privacy so there is this awkward dance of who shows first. When your entire career hinges on the wrong person finding out what you do for fun, it's going to get awkward. LOL.

We ask him to send a verification pic with or without face. He sends one of him in a bathroom mirror with the sign in front of his face, BUT!!!! Low and behold, I recognize that tat! I got a bit of relief of it all but also a HOLY SHIT, this dude swings or at least does MFM's with his wife.

I'm trying to figure out if I should tell him the truth and what that would be. I don't want to tell him who we are but I also don't want to be a dick to him and ghost him or leave him hanging. I'll figure it out but damn, talk about small world. LMAO.

A few other details cause I know some of you get hung up on them lol. His wife was in the kik chat with us and she sent a verification pic to us after he did. This is the USA military and any kind of open-marriage could end your career, especially for a commissioned officer like him. I don't make the rules. It's been this way forever and we just have to follow them. I know a lot of you know military swingers, that's awesome. I know some here are or were or know of single guys who know know a lot of military swingers. Cool story. Must be nice having a rank and career that they don't care about.