Hello fellow redditors and swingers..

I'll try and keep this brief and to the point, your views and comments are appreciated. My wife and I had our 2nd soft swap tonight with the same couple as we had our first experience (also soft swap) with, on the first experience there were three rules, being no oral (our rule) no kissing (their rule) and that the men can only cum with their own partner ... and woo hoo.... a great time was had by all...

..fast forward to tonight the rules have changed and now we were all up for a full blown soft swap, kissing and oral are good, men finish with their partners (I believe husbands generally cum with their partners in soft swap-correct?). The evening starts off well, we all chat and catch up, we then get naked and oral and kissing and fingering and hand jobs and and and...is all good and everyone is getting off first session is great and we all are in the right place... we then get started and round two and it gets towards the end of the festivities (I came at the end of round one in my wife, I am not sure about him) and my wife is giving us both a simultaneous hand job VERY HOT .... and all of a sudden he moans and blows his load all over my wife's hand and the bed and her arm and ...

I am not overly impressed, the rule was guys blow with their wives... how difficult is that, I mean I'm a guy, I can manage... I mentioned the rule before play and it was acknowledged and it was also confirmed that the only changes were kissing and oral... so a long story cut short, I am somewhat pissed off, I am indeed butthurt, but help, am I being a pratt or is my discontent justified? My wife was surprised, she got up washed her hands off and said I thought that guys were supposed to finish with their partners, but we got no answer from him, and his wife said,that she came, but c'mon, that's the point isn't it? and it wasn't the rule...

My wife was a bit put out, but she is not put off the lifestyle (neither am I) and we are both adults and we know what has happened has happened, but I'm pissed ... I just would like to know if it is justifiably so, or do I need to grow up.

Comments welcome, knowledge is power, so let me have it...

Thanks & happy swinging everyone...

Update: thanks for the replies and advice. This is all duly noted. However it needs to be acknowledged that last night was SOFT SWAP and not a full swap.