Recent club visit. I’m at the bar getting drinks and this single guy who’d been hovering nearby approaches and starts chatting up my partner.
I get back to the table able and he was not pushy or rude. Just chatting with her. But I know why he’s there. We all do. It was awkward.
We’d been there for quite a while and he had too. So, no he did not think she was there alone.
If you’re going to approach, do not wait for the male half to leave. I feel like that is shady as fuck. I realize it takes balls to approach anyone. If you’re not up for that, maybe the club scene is not for you?
Got my revenge though. Later we hooked up with a smoking hot unicorn. (Omg she was hot) I saw him look in our room window as I was pounding her doggy while she went down on my girl and he got a nod & a smirk 😏
Because it’s disrespectful man. If you are approaching a couple why would you wait for one partner to leave and then slide up to the other. Just walk up and introduce yourself.
I’m going to bet I’m not the only person that feels this way. I gather you do not, and that’s cool too.
Let the record reflect that I was still cool to this guy and exchanged pleasantries. It just rubbed us the wrong way.
It does appear this thread has struck a nerve.
If I knew she waited for me to leave? Still not cool.
I agree everyone has their own thing. I’m not overly protective. I just know what makes US comfortable. This particular dude on this particular night handled it wrong. This thread is probably instructive to single guys on how to handle it differently.
I think the subject is in the title. As evidenced by the ample on-topic responses.
Right? I’m surprised by the anger. Yikes.
It seems simple. But a few others disagree to the point of anger and name-calling. I guess this is why the process is so complex.
You’re making a lot of assumptions. I was actually really cool to this dude.
So much anger. I blame video games. Or, spicy food?
I am “Runs with premise” and this is my sidekick “Premise running thin”.
Maybe, but you could say that about 70% of the posts on reddit. We need something to talk about I guess.
I’m glad that works for you. In this particular scenario we chose to be polite but not pursue further conversation. Can you allow for the fact that in a given scenario another individual might react differently?
I work to cultivate a very approachable vibe. We are there to meet people too. If a guy comes over to talk to us I think 3 things:
- Wow this guy has some self confidence.
- He thinks my girl is hot, we have that in common.
- I’m happy to talk to literally anyone in hopes of making a new friend, whether there is play or not.
Hey thanks for the comment. Flashback to this night and that gorgeous unicorn. 😋
Well if it’s not apparently that warrants hostility!
That’s not what I said at all. Being approached is part of the game. We took issue with the tactic.
Also I added the salacious detail because this forum is about swinging & sex and I thought folks would enjoy the visual. I can always delete it I suppose.
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Attempting anything shady also communicates a lack of confidence. Disrespect issues aside, doing anything that shows you’re not confident is a big turnoff to most ladies.