Wife’s texts with bumble guy have been hot... original idea was a MFM threesome -that’s how she ended up on bumble. It was always my idea AND damn did she run with it once she got started.

We’ve never opened our marriage up before. We’ve been together 11 years and have 3 kids under 7 (6,4,2).

He’s her second “romance” in our online pursuit of a threesome . I’ve thoroughly enjoyed beating witness to their sexting. Roughly one week in to this guy she came to me concerned that she was obsessed.

Reading over their fucking hot bumble chats I was unpleasantly surprised by the emotional intimacy. I loved the sexy chats, but they were sharing more of themselves than I expected. She was clearly smitten and was coming to me to share. I got mad when I saw the exchanges and made clear how important transparency is to me. If I had known about the emotional intimacy as it was unfolding it wouldn’t have been a problem.

Anyway- he lives and works about an hour from us and ended up driving through our area for work. She called me to ask if he could see her while she was at park with the kids. I was at work and couldn’t get away and was totally unprepared for the question. I said no. She understood but pushed a bit.

The MFM enthusiasm I had was waning ...well not the sexual enthusiasm, I was still really turned on by the idea. Just feeling growing insecurity and fear of losing wife.

With my explicit permission the sexting continued. We got off together on it regularly. Then she proposed hooking him up with a close single girlfriend of hers. Wife and I have fantasizes about this single friend for years.

I said totally, but she’s got to hook me up with the friend first. She smiled and made the connection telling them that if they hit it off they’d have to have a foursome with us. They both were into it.

Two nights ago wife got texts from both of them that they were meeting up for a drink. Next morning reports come in that they were up until 4am making out and both independently report to my wife that the sexual chemistry between them is hot.

It’s on.

Thus far wife has been the only one texting anyone else. She suggests a group text with the 4 of us. Last night it starts.

Wife opens up the exchange with a small foreign language challenge about sex and our first initials. Bumble guy is first to answer. She responds with, “Winner!” “Husband, tell him what he’s won”

I love the setup and fantasies rush through me. I can’t wait to fuck her with him and I’m pretty uncertain about whether I really want them together.

I respond “Deep throat from my wife. Boom.” She loves it.

Anyway texting continues. It feels great to finally be in on the exchanges firsthand and the pressure to build the energy while typing on an iPhone is challenging for me.

11 years into this monogamous relationship and I’m feeling like I’ve lost my fluency with flirting. I may very well be wrong and that may just be insecurity and fear creeping up.

I so so so don’t want to be left out. I want to be desired and I’m full of ravenous excitement for both of these ladies.

That said, I’ve known this (f)riend for years with my wife and while I’m attracted to her I’ve never turned my game on. Wife shared last night that the friend is excited to be with wife sexually but isn’t sure about me. ...that sucked to hear. I’m concerned about being or feeling left out.

Meanwhile as these exchanges are happening wife is at grad school and I’m changing a poop diaper and putting kids to bed.

Summary: I feel insecure and really turned on. Any tips on how I can up my game while being true to what’s coming up for me?