Kind of a follow up/build on of this post.

The wife and I are still new to the game, but have had some really, really fun experiences, some even worth humble bragging. I (the husband) usually set up our little excursions (SMI, clubs, a local takeover type party a few weeks ago). I've generally taken the approach of we'll put ourselves out there with no expectations, if something happens, great, if not, my wife is still the hottest gal I know ;)

As we've gotten a few more experiences under our belts, I find myself wanting to maintain a bit more of a connection with of the people we meet, some hoping for a chance to maybe get naked again, and others just because they seemed like cool people. In discussing this with the wife, she likes the idea of just having everything flow organically and if it happens it happens. While I feel the same way, I can't help but think that if it wasn't for me making plans, the chances of this fun happening would be slim to none.

So the question Do any of you other couples find it cool that one person kinda does al the planning, while the other comes along and just has fun. It almost seems more relaxing for her that way, she just has to show up, & feel sexy & not worry about logistics.

We will talk more, of course, but didn't know if anyone else here had similar experiences where one spouse takes the lead, and the other enjoys the ride without the dreaded feeling of taking one for the team.

Unrelated side note - As we've seen numerous friends recently going through divorce, we are SO grateful for the constant communication that this choice of "lifestyle" of ours has forced us to make. We have no secrets, and we can talk about anything...it's really amazing...like, for realz.