So we tried another meet and greet and it was more of the same let downs. Sure there are variables here, such as the wife is gorgeous/young, while I am more just decent looking and somewhat older, and we aren't full swappers at this time, but even so the whole thing just felt off. For one, the hosts really didn't make an attempt to introduce us to anyone, which we are big kids, so that's all well and fine to a point, but when we have brought people together, we both, as a couple, strive to integrate the newer people into our circle... Something that has yet to happen at a meet and greet for us.

We still made our rounds and spoke with as many people as we could, although didn't really connect, but it seemed to be more of a poly scene and an extremely cliquey feel overall. The biggest red flag was just a week or two before the meet and greet our invite privileges were revoked as well, so we had to inform two couples that we couldn't bring them (should have cancelled right then and there)... Not sure why, as we are always respectful and communicative about our intentions. During the meet and greet, while I was preoccupied with being polite in a conversation with a couple, that we both knew wasn't our speed, two couples and a single male essentially lined up to talk to the misses, after having all night to meet both of us (we were on opposite sides of a table). Shit was just weird and boring, to be honest, and left us both with a bad taste in our mouths, perhaps permanently, for meet and greets.

There was also no follow up from anyone thanking us for coming, which is fine to a point, because if we weren't vibing with them, then they probably weren't with us, but damn that's pretty rude, especially when we were nothing but pleasant/courteous, although somewhat awkward from feeling unwelcomed. And yes we are being a bit sensitive (we still made our own fun afterwards and laughed it off mainly), but it really did feel like we were social pariah in the moment. Definitely not what we expected to feel in the lifestyle, especially as we always strive to make people feel accepted and we thought that would be a large part of the swinging community in general.

So, are some of these themes fairly common for meet and greets in your experience? What does a good meet and greet look like for you? What could we do differently, if we attempted another one, even though we probably wont

Edit: After reviewing some of the comments, I can see where we played a role in the lackluster reception and where my/our thoughts on the matter may be too harsh. Meet and greets just aren't our thing. There is more info to the story, but I did not feel confident sharing more, as it would give us away, most likely, to the group. Still, appreciative of the comments and I knew I was probably going to get blitzed and receive a reality check. I suppose we will simply be the change we wish to see and try to lead by how we would want to be treated