Hi Reddit, Warning this might be unintentionally funny. If I can’t laugh at this I might cry.

Me and my husband recently new to swinging, we’ve been together for many years. They’ve been a few incidences over the last couple of months.

When we’re intimate with just us, it takes him FOREVER to cum or if not cum at all but if we’re in a MFM or FM MM situation cums almost instantly. I use to think maybe because he’s a gym bro and steroids inhibit him too but why does he go instantly if there’s another guy?

Our last session we hang out with he’s gay male friends and we shared the same room, he’s friends started getting it on and then us and my husband came within minutes and when I went to the bathroom and came back one of he’s mates was holding his dick and he said “haha that doesn’t belong to you”. Then he’s mate eventually let go.

Then there was an unfortunate video I found of him squatting over MY dildo. When I confronted him about this, he denied being gay or bi or enjoying butt play, he just wanted to see if what it was like.

I know some men struggle with coming out as bi or gay in society but it’s starting to mess with my head because he has cheated on me many years ago with he’s children’s mother and now I’m like do I need to worry about men too?

I talk to my best friends about this, one believes he’s just an asshole who likes assholes but doesn’t think he’s gay and the other thinks I should just confront him again with the evidence.

I spoke to him last night and he got really angry for bringing it up again. Saying it’s not a big deal and stop being a bitch.

Advice or opinion, I feel like I’m going mad.