We finally found a real couple and had our first date this weekend! We have a group chat that was fun and sexy so we were excited to meet. The chemistry was there and we went for it.

But damn they were disappointing for both of us lol! They were “more experienced” and have been more involved in the lifestyle than we ever have so we thought they’d be great. But they were really vanilla. I like to be dominated and the other husband was so quiet and they both kinda just starfished.

Are swingers not necessarily kinky? Is the swinging the kink part for them? I guess we’re more into bdsm type play than we thought? Or are we just not sexually compatible with this couple?