Hello everyone! We are 27m and 25f engaged couple looking for advice and experiences from others.

We have been talking about dipping our toes in the lifestyle and we’re looking for general advice. We are absolutely in love with each other and have no complaints with any part of our relationship, but have entertained the idea of spicing things up a bit by adding another person to the bedroom. We aren’t comfortable with the idea of a “swap”, but rather a sexual experience together with another female (and eventually possibly another male). She thinks the idea of a 3-way seems exciting but is nervous on how she will feel seeing me with another woman.

Generally looking for advice on:

-how to make sure her she feels comfortable and avoid the subconscious thought of “is he going to want the other girl after”. Ways I can assure her it’s an experience for both of us and not just for me.

-best way to find another partner. We are looking for a stranger that isn’t local that can keep the experience private.

-my finance’s feelings come first and if she decides last second (before or during) that she doesn’t want to do it anymore is disrespectful to the second person to back out.