I feel the need to survey a larger group.

My partner and I don’t swap yet but we are game to watch and be watched. We have had strangers say things to us mid coitus and it has been fine. When I say "have a conversation," I don’t mean a passerby remarking on how hot we are. I’m referring to attempts to sustain a discussion, which happened twice at a party we attended last night and I need to know if this is regular behavior.

The first time we were in the play area a man came up and started with complimenting us, which we’re fine with. But then he starts asking us if we’re having fun and enjoying ourselves. My partner tilts his head and I slow my riding speed and we mumble "yes…" This man was not the host of the party, what was he hoping to accomplish by asking us this? Then he says another thing and the music is loud so I have to lean closer to him, mid cowgirl, and ask "WHAT?" Once he walked away, the mood deteriorated for that and other reasons.

We get water and some snacks, dance to Pony by Ginuwine and we’re more than ready for round two. We go back and this time a couple asks to watch us, and we say yes of course enjoy the show whatever. We’re making our way through pound town and this time the host of the party comes over. He is fully clothed, not actively playing, and takes a seat right next to us. He starts by complimenting us then says "I hope you’re having a great time, do you have any feedback?" So then we start talking about how the music could be better I guess and he’s like "tell me about it, we’re getting a DJ for the next one for sure." Again, dick and balls are thrusting inside me and this man wants a yelp review. Because this is the host we felt more like we needed to respond but it was a lot. He asks what our "deal" is, like if we swap or not. We say don’t and he nods his head and ends by giving us another thank you for attending. This is the part that sends me, he pats me on the back while I am full of cock and walks away.

So what is going on? In some ways, this seems like a way to hit on us but then it’s also like, we’re busy. I know swingers are open, but myself and my partner have never felt like it was our place to approach and expect to talk to people we’ve never met while they are in the middle of rigorous sex and I need to know if this is something that people in play areas should expect or is commonplace behavior? It would be one thing if we were to ask to watch, or if they were also fucking and wanted to parallel or be more involved (which has happened before and we welcome it), but outside of those situations it feels weird. Thanks!