So, me (M51) and my wife (F45) have mutually decided to join the LS since abt one month. Still no swapping experiences, just slowly building connections to couples we met on a dedicated web platform.

Abt 1 week ago we decided to try the club experience. Joined a party in a very small club open to couples only. 6 couples present (including us), one couple @ their first experience (like us) and other 4 esperienced couples.

The first part of the evening was fun, drinking, chatting to know each other and the experienced couples sharing their LS experiences to us 2 novice couples. Then at abt. 10 PM the action begun ; the 4 experienced couples joined together in the big room and started an orgy.... we the 2 novice couples joined just to have a look and make sex with our own partners.

Well, i did not reach the erection... new situation, a little bit nervous (my wife as well) , so we decided to go in another private room, but again my little friend did not want to cooperate. My wife was not at ease as well, in that situation... maybe this contributed.

I know that it is perfectly normal and I'm not worried at all (never had any ED problems in our monogamous sex life) but... well, it was not pleasant at all, and I've lost a little bit of confidence in myself since the doubt that it could happen even in a less extreme 2 on 2 situation is behind the corner.

I've reached my doctor friend, got perscribed 25 mg. sildenafil and bought a cock ring as well, think this will help to get a little bit more relaxed and self-confident. We'll see.