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My wife and I used to swing with more people, but over the last year, we've pretty much limited things to another couple we are good friends with. We get along great with them and are close friends. We kind of consider the sex just one part of our friendship with them and there is a lot of other things we do together. The wives are close friends, and I go golfing with the husband at least once or twice a month. About a year ago, his business was having some cash flow issues and because of my area of expertise, I spent quite a few hours sitting down and going through his books and helping him get things on track and giving him advice. He offered to pay me but I told him I was just happy to help and he was very gracious and appreciative. There is a ton of trust between us and them.
In all our time playing with others, we've never played alone. The only exception to that was a month ago, with this other couple, the wives wanted to have a few hours together by themselves before we all joined in together one evening.
We are planning on going on a 7 day cruise with them in February. We booked adjoining, connecting cabins knowing that we are likely going to play most evenings.
Yesterday, my wife got a text from the other wife. She was really hesitant asking my wife about this, but she basically told my wife that she and her husband had discussed, and they wanted to get our thoughts about one night on the cruise, doing an overnight swap.
When my wife told me about it, I was surprised but neither of us were offended or concerned by their question. We just hadn't considered it before. We talked quite a bit about it last night and I think in theory, neither of us have any specific concerns. We both trust them. There has never been anything shady in communications. We think they genuinely just want to try something different. I hate not sleeping next to my wife and when I travel for work it actually drives me nuts. We both agree it would seem different and out of the norm, but we are both willing to give it a try. I am going golfing with the husband this weekend, and I plan on bringing it up with him. It wouldn't be awkward or weird for me to bring it up as we've had plenty of conversations about the swinging aspect of our relationship with them.
For those that have done something like this, do you have any advice? I know there will be some that say "just be aware you could catch feelings for the other spouse." We are close enough with them that we figured out how to navigate that a while back and are comfortable with things there. But, this is new territory for sure. Just interested in hearing general thoughts on this and things you've found that are helpful. For clarification, we are looking for this to be full overnight and wouldn't see each other until the next morning.
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