Not new to ENM / Poly. New to Swinging / LS
I just matched with a couple who share a Feeld account. (Putting aside that it bothers me and breaks the app rules)
They are speaking in one voice. examples: She is flexible. He is straight. Etc.
I asked who was speaking and they didn't say. I asked about setting up a group chat date with my partner, and they'd rather use kik. I use a burner number, so I don't have security concerns.
My question: Is this "normal"?
I realize there's variation, but coming from a solo non-monogamous dating background where unicorn hunters (who often share accounts and may speak as one) are rightfully shunned, I just don't know what to think.
The whole point is for me and partner to meet them together for group fun. They fit the bill. Appropriate age. Attractive. Location isn't ideal, but it's workable.
I don't want to bring ENM solo dating / Poly expectations into this, but the speaking with one voice thing and not telling me who I'm talking to??? I just don't know what to think.
Help?
Yes, it’s very common since we’ve been in. However we use Telegram or Snapchat and once we establish a really good friendship/trust we move over to exchanging numbers. I however do the vetting and verifying myself and I also happen to speak as one cause I don’t trust the husbands who I speak to 95% of the time. Once they know it’s me the female- they change directions and isn’t about couples anymore but rather threesomes.
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