I'm curious as to what kind of kinks and fetishes are the most common in our communities.

I had always heard foot fetishes were the most common outside of the LS, but ive been looking for a swinging husband with a foot fetish for a year now with no success, and i actively look, like putting the word out within our groups, and asking when we go to clubs. People are starting to think my hubby has a foot fetish, because at a lot of events he will put my feet on his lap and start rubbing on them hoping to lure over any foot lovers, but i think the message being recieved is that he likes feet, because several women have come over asking him for a rub, but ive got no takers on my end.

We recently had a tiny shibari demonstration and that was hot. We are going to explore that further, and when we mentioned it during one of our hookups, both of our partners were experienced and hopped right in (and they weren't a couple).

Pretty universally it seems like swingers are proud to be sporting whips, handcuffs, and paddles, but thats the only kink I've really seen on display anywhere.

I hear some people have entered the LS because they have a kink their partner doesnt share. So for the kinksters out here, what's your kink or fetish, and do you share it with your partner, only people you swap with, or both?