Me (M51) and my wife (F50) just started dipping into LS earlier this year. We have had some MFM experiences, mainly because I have a compersion thing, I get a high watching her get off. I have always been in control, picking the guy, setting the dates, directing the action, etc., at least until now.

She has an acquaintance that has been sharing a lot about her sex life, and asked my wife if we were swingers and if we wanted to play with her and her boyfriend. I'm totally down, this lady is really cute. I'm having a hard time not being in complete control though, that and I've never had to perform with another woman. Luckily, I have Trimix for that, but does anyone else get slight anxiety because of not being in control? We have never met the guy before, so I said we need a vanilla outing first to see what he is like. I have been communicating all of this with my wife and she just keeps asking if I want to back out, so I don't know if she gets it. Any advice?