First and foremost, we know this post will get a lot of negative feedback, but we’d like to hear the good and the bad so that we can make our decision.

We’ve been in the lifestyle for around 2 years, and for the life of us, we cannot find suitable couples to swap with. We have done a fair bit of threesomes but have lucked out on couples.

Here’s the issue. We spend 2 hours every morning in the gym, working on ourselves, eating healthy day in and day out and we’d like to think we look good. Fit and presentable. Is it wrong to want to find similar couples who themselves look good and have similar body sizes?

We’ve gone on swinger sites, start chatting, we send our pics and when they send theirs, we just lose interest. They on the other hand, are more than eager to play with us. It somewhat feels lopsided. We spend hours each day working on ourselves, is it wrong to seek out couples who value themselves physically too?

It’s so frustrating to the point of thinking of “lowering our physical standards” to have some kind of couples play. We’re not swinging for the emotional feels, so what else is there if not physical feels? Should we stick to our guns? Or lower our expectations?