I'm 39, bisexual female married to my best friend, 44 hetero male. We've been swingers for 4 years after I came out to my husband as bi. We decided to explore with women together. For the most part, it's been 3sums with single women. We were playing with a couple and soft swapped with them a few times. It ended because basically our contact with them fizzled out and we've lost contact, plus the husband was very pushy. My husband is not keen on the idea of another man having intercourse with me and I also have reservations. I had SA in the past and I only feel comfortable having sex with my husband. A part of me is curious and wants to try the experience of doing a full swap but the thought of it gives me anxiety.

The challenge we face is finding a couple who is ok with only soft swap, and I totally understand why.

Is anyone else only soft swap? Anyone else have a similar experience of feeling anxiety at the thought of full swap?