Without getting too far into the details, my wife and I have been active in the LS for around 4 years. We have a couple that we meet with regularly and I (husband) have had several 1 on 1 dates with the wife and have a very erotic and kinky connection. My wife has done the same once before but does not have the same connection with the Husband. It’s all good, no one is taking one for the Team, we love these friends and will stay friends forever.

We also have other couples we are friends with and regularly frequent local clubs and resorts.

Long story short my wife is looking for a relationship for solo dates someone she can have a connection with and has a friend that is not in the lifestyle that she would like to have a FWB relationship with, it is someone I have met but lives out of state. They have been friends for decades and chat on a fairly regular basis.

Our marriage is in an amazing place and continues to get better, but I am torn at the prospect of this with the friend being outside the LS. I am looking for thoughts on this.