We have a lot of posts on here about how people got into the swinger scene, but for anyone taking a break from it, or who totally swore off swinging (though there are probably not too ex-swingers that never plan to play again on this reddit) what caused you to want to take a breather?

We've been swinging for a year. Its been a blast! We havent had any really negative experiences, there have been a few moments requiring readjustment conversations, but its been pretty much all fun. We've never been closer. I wanted to give it a year and see what I thought. I've learned a lot about myself, my hubby, and so much about sex I never could have imagined would have applied to me, i never saw myself as that sexual previously, but I have been voracious since we started.

All that being said, swinging is kinda losing it's luster. I dont really know how not to do it fulltime. It takes up a lot of my headspace, and everythime we have an open evening not called for family or friends, we want to be at an event or on a date. Which requires quite a bit of coordination and keeping in touch with people even on non date days. I feel a little overwhelmed by all threads we get daily messages on.

The lack of 4 way connections has been frustrating, but weve kinda figured out a work around by dating singles, but that comes with it's own set of problems. The single males are notoriously unreliable about showing up, and my favorite one is always kinda a dick afterwards, and thats tainting all my fun memories with him. The single women have all been lovely, but other than one of them, i worry they want more of a relationship than is actually on the table, and then i worry we are kinda using them, which i would never want to do.

I think ive been feeling more annoyance about things when I think about swinging than the absolute dopamine overload I used to have, and i think maybe that indicates we should take a break.

To us a break would look like maybe doing one event a month, and maybe a date or two a month. I'm not ready to just stop the whole thing, but I would like it taking up less room in my head.

So how about anyone else? Have you taken a break and come back, or stopped altogether? I would love to hear the why's and how it all worked out in the long run.