Started this year & have been swinging with 1 couple so far. We hang out just as friends & so far have had 3 play nights. They are both older then us & the wife really enjoys my husband every time. My hubby constantly talks about how she's always texting how she is wanting more afterward, how tight she is, etc. I don't get compliments like this from my husband, I assume being with him for so long (5 years), that I'm used to his size (idk). Her husband is about 1/3 size of mine & has severe problems mentally which makes him go soft, even in separate rooms. I've tried everything to help & I am not judgmental on size ever. The 1st two times nothing happened between him & I, but my hubby had his fun with the other wife. This 3rd time around, the other husband finished, it was very quick & unfortunately I didn't even notice he was done. I thought he went soft & inverted, per the usual. Hubby got an additional 30ish min of playtime. I honestly didn't know if I should have stopped their playtime or if that's considered rude or against like unspoken rules in LS or something. Again, we are newbies so still learning things. She also stated she was bi, but there has been no interest in me, its been made clear by her actions, she only wants my husband. Its nice to hang out as friends, but its to the point the other wife wants my husband all the time. And they expect to always play. I don't know if i should proceed with further play time with the couple, or if I should just stick with it & try to help the other husband along with his hard time? My husband suggested that the other husband is getting "used" to me & should get better maybe in time.

Anyone have suggestions or pointers to help?