So I’m not sure if they should be posted on an ENM page or a swingers page. My ex-girlfriend and I decided to add in a third person to fill some fantasies. We also were OK with her talking to other people and sending pictures and video, teasing stuff like that. She was much more comfortable with everything than I was and I was trying to get used to everything.

We decided to add one of my friends into the group, I was comfortable with him, I knew he was really open-minded. And I felt safer with someone that I knew rather than a stranger. Well, later, I found out that she was going a whole lot further in messages with him and potential playmates that I had originally anticipated, not that things wouldn’t have progressed normally, or at least that was the idea, but she was a few steps further in the game than I was.

There was one night where the three of us were just giving each other massages, it was getting pretty late and I went off to bed, the understanding between all three of us was that he was going to prep her, and then she was going to come in and wake me up for some fun. well she had a few drinks in her and decided to talk him into joining us. So when I woke up, I was completely unprepared and uncomfortable with the whole of the situation. I let it go on for a moment, but things died down shortly after.

She and I talked about it, he and I talked about it. There’s no real hard feelings amongst the three of us, but I’ve had a lot of anxiety about adding a third person ever since. And now that she and I have broken up I’m also feeling a lot of anxiety about any kind of new partner , let alone performing in front of, or with another person