We have been in the LS for maybe 9 years now. We have a vanilla couple we are friends with. More accurately the 2 wives were very close friends. They have a pretty good sex life, with all sorts of fun things going on-sexting eaxh other, roleplay, and so on. We both agreed they might enjoy the LS, so 2-3 years ago we decided to talk to them about it. We made it very clear we weren't talking about playing with them (there's no mutual sexual attraction), just that we thought they might like it.

It was a huge mistake. They got very quiet in the conversation. Afterwards they kept asking if our marriage was OK (it's fantastic, BTW). Then the other wife started pulling away from my wife-not inviting her to lunch, declining my wife's invitations to go out, and so on. Finally an opportunuty arose for my wife to ask the other wife directly what was going on. Well, the judging started-that they disapproved of our choice, that they were worried about our marriage, that they didn't want to be associated with people who were in the LS, and on and on. They clearly did not understand the LS at all-or not how the LS should be if you do it correctly (ENM, etc.). The amazing thing is that we know both of them have had affairs-but of course it's more "socially acceptable" to have an affair than be in the LS.

Our revelation has most likely ended the friendship between the wives. The moral is this-keep your participation in the LS to yourselves. You just never know what sort of reaction you are going to get if you out yourselves. We blew it by telling them, and we won't do that again.