What have you found works best for you and your partner in terms of messaging etiquette? To date, my husband mostly controls/seeks out potential play partners for us by using an account that is intended for the both of us on Reddit and then on a separate messaging platform. He shows me at the end of each day or when he comes home from work any potential partners / people he’s been messaging and “our” conversations but lately I feel sort of left out from the process because 1) I’m not even asked if I’m interested in this potential couple / male until the conversation has already been established and there’s already been back and forth messaging And 2) He sees pictures/videos without me of them and sometimes they’ve already disappeared so I don’t even know what he saw or I’m just seeing them afterwards

It’s bringing up feelings of insecurity for me that I think are inflated for several reasons but primarily I’m new to this and he has tons of experience prior to our relationship. I know in my heart he’s faithful and what turns him on is really others desiring me (our only experiences have been him and I with another M) but I’m somewhere in this process feeling like an outsider…

So is it better if I have my own account and a group chat is created so I get the messages live and feel more a part of it? How do others do this to ensure all parties are hands on equally?