We are a mid-40s couple that finally took the plunge and visited our first club this weekend.

Overall we had an amazing experience and will definitely return but we found the single guys a bit much. We accept that it could be our inexperience but we had a couple of moments in particular that we're uncomfortable.

First, we were in the club's porn cinema kissing like a couple of teenagers. There was another couple in there plus a few guys with their cocks out watching both the screen and us - no problem at all. Then the other couple left and we were the centre of attention. Pretty soon around 4 guys were stood up and facing us instead of the screen gradually getting closer and closer while wanking. It started to feel pretty intimidating and we told them to back off and give us some space which, to their credit, they did without complaint but we were both uncomfortable by that point and left the room.

We agreed afterwards that we didn't mind being watched in there and, if they had kept their distance to begin with, they would have gotten a much better show than a little kissing and groping.

Later we went to a room that had a lock on the door and blinds that went over a window (that had no glass). We closed the blind as we wanted privacy. As we got hot and heavy a guy reached through the window and tried to move the blind out of the way so he could watch us. This was against the club rules and we yelled at him to kindly go fuck himself.

We would have complained about the last incident but we didn't see enough of the guy to know who it was and no one was around when we left the room.

This isn't a rant against single guys in swinging - we are new and have no doubt we will make mistakes. Also, we almost certainly noticed the single guys that made their presence felt in a negative way much more than those that were perfectly well behaved.

We think the best thing for us now is to just avoid club nights with single guys attending until we are more comfortable (the club we went to has nights reserved for couples and single women) but we're also keen to know how others handle those situations when in clubs.