Asking for my hubby, he's kinda getting a complex...

Poor guy has spent 15 years fucking me, and I always want to be touched softly, sweetly, and gently... which is not normal swinger sex.

Some of the women he's with have been screaming "HARDER!!!" and he loved it at first, it was novel being given that permission and freedom, and its a totally different style of fucking than he had ever done, but now he has kinda flipped to feeling like he can't go much harder and faster than he is doing, and it gets in his head.

I know the last woman was screaming it in hopes when he went harder it would make him cum (she told me that, she HATES it when the guy doesn't, she said it's like a punishment to her, fortunately he was able to oblige, but it was by resetting, not going harder).

Side note (cause it will make him happy) the women seem to be having a bunch of screaming orgasms in between the directions, so i think he doesn't need to worry too much...

I'm never someone who wants it harder, but i do think the ladies sound pretty sexy when they are screaming for it. Outta curiosity, and to give my hubby some insights, for the ones yelling for it, what's the motivation? Is it instructional? Is it to put him over the edge? Is it just bedroom vocab? Or is there another option?