I would like a short way to state our relationship agreement in our swingers profile and ask for peoples input. Basically we are ok with me (48F) playing with any gender but my male Bi partner can play with males only. This is my limit not his, but he accepts it and respects it (I am newish to the LS and he has been involved before). Thing may evolve, but this is how it is at the moment.

So I currently state that what is doable is MM and FF swap, MMF and parallel play. And that MF swap with the male of the couple is not on the cards at the moment. Thats about as short as I can get it, but is it clear?

Or do I just call this a one pussy policy for him, but that's a negative leaning phrase in my mind.

Before I get any negative comments, such as unfairness in the dynamic, or me being selfish, or this isn't really swinging, please know I have had a lot of comments like that already and a lot of soul searching over this and it is not something I can help. Even him hugging another woman who is undressed is enough to have me in tears. One woman at a party leaned into him for a snuggle. It was a short lived snuggle. It is really a case of no swinging or swinging with this parameter in place, and he is the one who states that he is happy to go at my pace, even if that means never having a MF swap.

I also believe that its ok for both partners to have different limits and it turns out he has a genuine joy out of watching me. I was happy to not play with men because I believed that was fairer when I was restricting him, and just play with women instead, but it turns out he loves me playing with men. So I have come to terms with this, but honestly one of my favourite things is playing with him in an exhibitionist way with other couples playing all around us.