My (M56) wife(F50) and I went to a local swingers club/resort recently. It was our second trip. The first time was really to just feel it out and see if it was for us. We drank a little too much, so didn’t really feel we should engage with others and cause potential regrets, but had a great time. The second and most recent trip we had just a couple of drinks and were having a great time. We were in the hot tub and struck up a conversation with an attractive younger couple. My wife is a total smoke show, and the woman from the other couple was very attracted to her. We really got a great vibe from them and one thing led to another, and the girls began kissing and touching each other. The man from the other couple was very smitten with her as well and was very complementary. He and my wife began kissing, and I kissed his partner. Before long, it became pretty obvious though that she was more into my wife than me. As things progressed, she came out and said that she was 99% for women. I know I know. My wife was being poached. we kind of recognize that and really didn’t mind because what we were looking for was really for her to have an experience with another man and potentially another woman and I was really just there in a supportive role, so what they were doing really did work for us so I didn’t see any reason to point it out. I didn’t feel too bad about not getting a lot of attention from the other girl. Anyway, things progressed and it really couldn’t have worked out better for us as a couple. She had sex with him while I held her and reassured her. He was a very skilled lover, very respectful of both Heher and I, said and did all the right things. he even rubbed her feet at one point for God sake. Such a sensual experience for my wife. She absolutely loved it. I thrilled about the experience she had and I'm skeptical that we could find such a caring, passionate, respectful and pleasurable partner for my wife, a second time. Here comes the rub. We’re considering getting in touch with them again, but my wife insists this time she doesn’t want me to be in a supporting role only or just a voyeur. She wants me to participate. I would also like that. The only way we can think of making that work is MFM with only him and my wife as the other girl isn’t into guys. to me it seems pretty obviously they're not a legitimate couple, but we did have a fantastic time with them. My wife even had a fantastic time with her. More of a novelty, but still a great time. we are considering asking if we can play with him alone, but do not know if this is a newbie faux pas or rude. Or maybe this is a normal thing among experience swingers, which they obviously are. The other option would be get together with them and be really assertive about me and him playing with my wife and possibly trying to include the girl in someway. Very new Waters we are navigating and we’re hoping to get some advice from you folks with more experience. Thanks in advance.